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Halloween is 5 days away. Up until the beginning of this month, Sailor Moon has wanted to wear her Dinosaur costume that she has worn for the past 2 years. Then she seen a picture of her friend’s costume and she changed her mind. She is now going out as Elsa…or so I thought. She found her vampire teeth yesterday and decided she wanted to be Draculora from Monster High…*facepalm* Then the light bulb clicked on.. “How about a Vampire Elsa?” She went for it completely and in fact loves the idea more then I thought she would (SCORE for the Mothership!)
Now last year she had it all planned out, she would be Bat Girl, then the night before she asked to be a Curious George Book(she asked at bedtime).. so I spent 2 hours frantically putting white paper on a box and coloring it all yellow and then adding armholes and a front and back cover. It fit her perfectly! We put the box in a garbage bag to go to the event at the mall (it was raining really bad out)…we got to the mall and she put it on and after about 5 minutes she didn’t want to be a book anymore. We went to Walmart and found a “new” costume for her to wear that night.. a blue Furby costume.. she wore it for the rest of the event at the mall. Supper time came and went and we were getting ready to go out… I had her black pants, sweater and socks ready and I asked her to grab her costume. She came in with the dinosaur costume -.- (insert several curse words that ran through my head). She absolutely refused to be a Furby… it was Dinosaur or she was going naked (I can imagine the neighbors faces answering that door…LOL!) So Dinosaur she was… and she swore she would be this dinosaur every year for the rest of her life (hope she plans on being a midget for the rest of her life because it won’t fit her for much longer). So I am not going to hold my breath that she will be a Vampire Elsa.. because deep down, I have a gut feeling she will be the dinosaur again..lol
Today, however we decided to get into the spooky spirit of Halloween and we got crafty in Art Class today! (Note to self: When painting the bottom of Sailor Moon’s feet.. sit on her…LOL!!) We got white and green paint all over the bathroom because she was squirming soo badly it tickled her that much. But the end result came out very nice and she is soo proud of herself that she could make something so pretty. So here are the final pictures of our creations!
This is a banner we made with her handprints. (We did this one after the painting one below so I ended up assembling most of this on my own because she was soo over art and wanted to do her own thing.)
This was the messy fun we had today. She got her hands and feet painted and if you ever want to her the most non-fake and honest giggles from a child.. tickle their feet with paint and a paintbrush. I haven’t heard Sailor Moon giggle like that in a long time, reminded me of when she was still in diapers.
Have a great night, its campout night here so I gotta get her tent in the living room made before I get our supper ready and we sit down to watch the finale of Halloween Wars on the food network and then watch (I’m re-watching) the WWE PPV that was on last night. Pity help if she misses her favorite wrestler (Seth Rollins) winning a match.. lol
Last month we did all freezer meals. I did a big shop and split our foods up by week. I liked the idea of splitting up my frozen portions of the meals by week but here I am on the last week of October and I have only used 2 of the 4 bags I put in the deep freezer. In splitting my food up like this I was hoping it would give me more time to spend with Sailor Moon, but sadly what ended up happening is my energy levels dropped. For most of October I have spent more time being soo tired then I ever did when I was even pregnant with Sailor Moon. In September, I was not like this and I was eating different foods, so I am assuming the choices of our freezer meals has made my metabolism change drastically and I am going to spend next month fixing that!
I do my meal plans in a weekly format as we repeat each week, every week of the month, which works for us as we are not big eaters. A regular sized lasagna you can by pre-made at any grocery store could feed a family of 4 nicely for one night(possible next day lunch leftovers). For us, I make a homemade lasagna that is the same size, ingredients, etc and it lasts us more then a month if we eat some once a week and I separate our portions out per week and freeze them.
My focus this month for our meal plan is to get healthier and regain my energy so I can bounce back to my normal self. I am incorporating meats high in B6 and the sides that are also high in B6 and Vitamin C.
I felt I had to post this because I have had alot of people in my life give me flack for just about every parenting decision I have ever made and yesterday it reached a point where I either keep it all in and let it eat at my privately or I type this up on my facebook in hopes that some of the people who are contributing to the problem would read it and then stop voicing their opinion about my life when they know nothing about us other then seeing us every now and then. (beware this is a lengthy post)
Before I explain how being an Introvert effects her, I will define what an introvert is…
“An introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.
Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”
When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.
Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.” (source: http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/introvert.htm)
Now how does this effect our life?
She LOVES staying home and doing things with me, but only for so long.. then she HAS to do her own thing (which is nice but not when we are in the middle of doing something else -.- lol).
She asks to play with other kids, but when I take her to play at the library or park, she plays by herself or any stuffies she may take with her and not with the other kids but that works for her and quenches the need to play with other kids for her.
I have signed her up for group classes at the local Y in the past, and she drops out a few weeks later because she refuses to go for one reason or another (that’s a sign that its too much for her to handle and recharge properly – the program ran for an hour and a half).
After going anywhere besides a quick walk around the block, asking her to do anything around the house goes in one ear and out the other as she has do what she wants first. (Which at first usually resulted in me repeating myself with a raised voice to get her attention and her running to her room crying because I raised my voice and disturbed her concentration. I was not aware of her introvert-ness then, now I know to leave her be and let her relax her way because when she is ready she will do what she is suppose to and she usually does without me asking.)
She is not shy by any means, which most people first think about introverts. She is very cautious about who she talks to and she has no social skill issues at all, she socializes with people of all ages. But as a homeschooling mom, I feel the pressures to take her places to socialize, even if she wishes not to go and would rather stay home. So I am constantly asking myself how important is it REALLY that she be involved in a lot of programs where she could socialize with kids her age but chooses not to when we go. (I have wasted a fair amount of money on programs we stop going to because they were not benefiting her.)
There have been times where we are scheduled to go somewhere (like storytime at the library or bowling) and when I tell her we’re going the day before, she tells me she doesn’t want to go. So I end up asking her repeatedly throughout the day if she wants to go and why(hoping she will change her answer) but she keeps saying no and she makes up different reasons that make no sense. So I then come up with activities we can take with us to do so that she is comfortable doing in between turns at bowling or at the library so she can still listen to storytime and do something she wants at the table with me (last year we did preschool activities, this year she is starting to participate in storytime because she finally feels comfortable with the fact we go to the library ALOT and she knows how to relax herself there like she does at home).
Today, I told her we were going bowling tomorrow.. her first reply.. I don’t want to go.. why? because its not fun,(I suggested we can take a few toys for her to play with or her colouring like last week) her response.. I can do the colouring and play with toys here and have more fun then I do there. But then I gave her a choice.. go bowling or go to the library or stay home.
So tomorrow, we will be going to the library and not bowling so she can get more books to read and I know when we get home, I can expect to have about an hour or 2 to myself (with the exception of her asking for a snack). Will she actually socialize with the kids in the toy yard? Or will she keep to herself and play with the dinos’ and animals by herself? I don’t know but I am not too worried if she doesn’t play with the other kids. She will when she is ready and comfortable to do so.
I told myself when she was younger that I would never force her to do something she didn’t want to do while she was growing up, I want her to enjoy doing everything she does. I kinda lost sight of that in August/September and gave her a bunch of options for programs to sign up for.. we only signed up to one of them and I think doing so was a mistake. I should have taken notice on the first day when she melted down within 15 minutes of being there and I was not the only one that had to try and force her to do it, a few people even made me feel like I was the problem for her meltdown. (If I wasn’t there, she would not act up for attention like she was is what I was told and that was followed up with being told that I might be asked to just drop her off and leave the next week and to leave that first week.) She was not having fun.. and every week we have gone she does not have fun. I doubt I can get my money back, but I am ok with that… its gone to helping a local business as well as a great group of people giving kids a chance to have fun. This experience has shown me she likes to bowl, but not in that setting.. so instead of bowling in a kid’s league every weekend, we’ll go up on random days and just me and her will play and have fun.
Now I am aware that some people are judgmental of our choices and her lack of being in programs to socialize and that the problem is because she is always around me and not her peers. Honestly, I would love to be a mom that has their child in a ton of programs and watch her having loads of fun playing with other kids and doing new things with them and having her come home and tell me all the stories and how excited she is to go next time.. but sadly..I am not. Instead, I am a mother of an introvert child.. and I wouldn’t change her and her quirkiness for anything!
I love you my Sailor Moon!!
This is how the day started…
We got dressed, took the garbage out then decided a walk to the store would be good exercise. We were kidnapped by friends on the way. They were heading to a Kid’s Day at the local Salmon Derby happening this week.
So while I was planning this..
We actually ended up doing this..
BUT the day was not all fun and games.. we had a MAJOR scare..
Sailor Moon has been acting out a bit since the Jedi Master left for university this past Wednesday. She has been ignoring me when I try to get her attention, and talking back with alot of attitude (she was spinning in the computer chair and the Jedi Master was on skype and told her to stop it was hurting his eyes .. she looked at him and told him “don’t look then” with a snotty attitude).
Today was no different…she walked too far ahead of me and when I yelled I got radio silence from her, when she wanted something and I said no, she would scream and holler and attempt to do everything she could to get her own way.
She had her own agenda and no one was going to screw it up for her.
She wanted inside the bouncy house (they had like 5 lined up side by side).. she went into a Disney themed one.. I waited outside the door holding her shoes until the guy said times up. I looked away for a brief minute. The guy told the kids time was up and they all started coming out.. all except Sailor Moon. He let the other kids in and she was not in there hiding. She was gone…
Three of my friends were frantically looking for her in the huge crowd with me but we couldn’t find her. Then I spotted her jumping into a bouncy house further down the strip. She took off on me knowing that I was going to go with her to these houses. She didn’t let me know where she was going or anything. So one of my friends gave me an idea… see if I can get a stranger to grab her hand when she comes out and start walking away with her to scare her so she will stop running off on me.
A young man stepped up and did this idea… he took her hand when she came out, Sailor Moon told him where I was and they started walking.. he tried to get her to go out of the way and SHE WENT WITH HIM!!! A total freaking stranger!!!! Thank god I was in on this!
So tonight Sailor Moon had a long talk with the Jedi Master and I about what she did wrong and why it was wrong. When we asked why she did it she blamed it on the Jedi Master not being here to cuddle with her.. she has been using him as a scapegoat to get her own way since he left. Then it switched to her doing it because she couldn’t find me because you know standing in front of one bouncy house and not being seen by your kid obviously means that can run off to the other ones and get more lost. But it eventually came out, she took off because she wanted to go on all the bouncy houses and not have to bother with me.
Among how she has been acting, this has brought the Stranger Danger thing as something I am now going to bring to the forefront with her. She now has less freedom compared to what she had. I honestly thought she had the whole Stranger Danger thing down.. we talked about it alot in the past few years, but lately she has become too friendly with people. She will offer random strangers food that she may have (which I think is a good thing to teach but its not just kids her age she is doing it to anymore and I do not want her to give anyone the wrong idea.) And she has started talking to EVERYONE!
The Jedi Master’s mother gave me an idea to help her learn that she now has boundaries when we are out… its a wrist strap kinda concept. You know those cute animal backpacks with the long tail that the mom can hold onto.. its like that but its a bracelet that links her to me. I am going to knit something up in the next day or so and start doing that with her because today not only made her aware of stranger danger, it opened my eyes to how close I came to possibly losing her and I would never bounce back from that ever! (Yes I may be over-reacting but until you are in the position I was in today.. you won’t understand how I am feeling right now.) I am also planning a trip to the local police station and getting one of the officers to have a talk to her about strangers and why its not a good thing to go with one.
I am crossing my fingers that tomorrow.. we get to finally do schoolwork like I planned today and overall, its a better day then today was for me.